Our sexuality (whether or not expressed physically) is intended by God to enable deep connection with others and profound reflection of the Creator's Person. His call to take up our cross and follow Him sacrificially, stewarding our sexuality according to His intent revealed in Scripture, is not of this world. It is a radiantly life-affirming way, for His love never fails. By forsaking same-sex relationships and other forms of sexual expression that are outside of His will, He reveals a surpassing and eternal joy.
His heart is also compassionate for all who are struggling to live out their faith amid sexual temptations such as are common to all people throughout history. For some, the challenges are deepened by painful life experiences, by the effects of the sins of others, and by our misbegotten responses to these things, so that sexuality becomes misdirected and curved towards despair rather than joy. Christ longs to restore us in the fullness of our humanity and our capacity to connect with others intimately and honorably, as ones in love with the One who from the foundation of the world has loved us, died for us, calls us to arise in joyful fellowship with Him.
This support group is intended for individuals desiring to honor His intent as revealed in Scripture (Matthew 19) for stewardship of sexuality -- whether that be in vibrant celibacy or in marriage between male and female -- in all seasons of life abounding in His presence and entering into the journey of disciples walking in love with Him.
Support Group on Monday Nights, 7:30-10:00 p.m.
Since October 1992; Glendale, California.
Contact, telephone: 818-248-0499 (voice message), facebook or email
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Isaiah 43:2. When thou passest
through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall
not overflow thee:
when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
Implicit Trust in His Wisdom. The mystery of transformation through union with the Crucified One is what gives us hope for personal restoration and relational health, no matter how profound the damage wrought by sin and its effects. This holds for sexual as well as other human struggles that go to the heart of identity and the capacity to be in relationship with God and others in the world. Relationship with Christ is also what gives us strength to forsake paths of fulfillment that human wisdom would affirm are available for our fulfillment, but which contradict what He has revealed through Scripture to be His intent for righteous stewardship of the gift of sexuality. Only the foundation of knowing that He first loves us can lead to responses conceived in profound honesty and abiding grace, only then can the conviction that God is leading one away from same-gender sexual relationships result in a journey undertaken freely and without shame or fear. Interpretations of His intent with regards to our sexuality may differ among sincere persons of faith, and individual outworkings may seem mysterious to finite human understanding, but ultimately His calling for us is to relinquish our own frame of reference and seek His larger perspective, revealing who we are becoming as persons and finding in Him our life and sense of being.
Psalm 119:28,31 My soul melteth for heaviness: strengthen thou me according unto thy word...thou shalt enlarge my heart.
Psalm 16:11 Thou wilt show me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
Intimacy with God. Recognizing fallenness of sexuality and forsaking worldy alurements can either alienate us from a God perceived as rejecting of who we are, or it can precipitate a profound trust in His mercy and passion to bridge the gaps left by the inward curvatures and distortions in the fabric of our being. Those who receive Christ's powerful compassion in the depths of their human weakness will come to partake of His holy and pure affection out of those same depths. To abide in His presence is to experience a holy and transcendent love that transforms us in unpredictably glorious ways, imparting His own character--radiant compassion that is a reflection of beholding His face. Through worship, teaching, healing prayer, communion, and group support, we in our times together experience the joys and difficulties of redeeming the capacity to connect with others in ways that affirm the life He intends to be expressed through us. Prayer and worship, inspired by His love and attended by His healing presence, lift burdens of shame, transcend walls of isolation, and reveal mysteries of His heart towards us. Finding this communion with God, independent of any situational result, is the core of what Safe Passage is about.
John 17:21 That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me.
Witness of Transcendent Love. We are immersed in a world filled with relational pain, in which distorted heterosexuality, woven with addiction, idolatry, and fragmentation, blunt the ability to be persons who, having internalized the deep love of God, are able in wholeness to look and truly see another in who they really are, and not merely as a projection of past conflict or an extension of present unmet needs. Those who, facing same-gender attractions and seeking the Lord's vision of being, in the midst of struggle, a man or woman vibrant in His image, are a witness of His life-giving love to others, both in the world and in the Church. For the world, we are a witness of vulnerability and trust in relationship to God, and we invite others to know His radiant life in quiet joy and intimacy. For the Church, we are a witness of a passionate response to His beckoning to find in Him our first love, trusting He will transcend the blocks to intimacy with Him, and transform us "from glory to glory" such that we will bear a clearer reflection of His holy and tenderly glorious love.
Matt. 5:3,6,8 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. ... Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.... Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
Revelation 3:18 I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see.
2Corinthians 3:18 But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.
Renewal for the Church. Our journeys are never separated, either in time or space, but mercy and hope received by one releases outworkings of grace in others. In an age fractured by anxious loneliness and furtive attempts to find connection, the Body of Christ needs those who have experienced an intimacy with God borne of entrusting into His hands the very core of our being, and who are discovering an unsurpassed beauty of love that heals wounds deepened by fear and isolation. This witness of a risen Saviour who abides with us in the midst of suffering, embraces us in truth, and leads us to joy everlasting is a critical need for others longing for a more genuine and personal connectedness with Him. Related activities of Safe Passage include ongoing prayer team participation in various healing and renewal conferences, writings and workshops, and availability to equip and encourage others to faithfully share Christ's healing presence to those desiring to more fully reflect His image in their sexuality. The greater perspective is that we are not the only ones in need of transformation; the Church is in great need of a more profound vulnerability in relation to Christ, an intimacy borne of humility and trust, which will purify and refresh. The unrestrained willingness to entrust one's core identity to Christ, Who withheld nothing of Himself from us -- and relinquish all that would otherwise define or humanly compel us -- is indeed a powerful evidence of His grace and a profound symbol of renewal for all the Church.
John 17:23 I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.
The mission of Safe Passage is to offer a safe place for those seeking support amid struggles with homosexuality to thrive in relationship with God. The group encourages each participant to enter into the journey of disciples walking in love with Jesus Christ -- honoring His intent as revealed in Matthew 19 for the stewarding of sexuality whether in celibacy or marriage -- discovering His grace and intimacy, His transforming power, and the fullness of calling in His Kingdom.
Make Me Whole, Lord
My soul looks to you from shadow places
in my unformed being.
Alone with these faces--
I don't know whom I'm seeing.
How long have I looked upon others
Only to find that they from the start
have echoed an innermost aching
to embrace the lost form of my heart.
Who will I be, are the pieces together;
Can they ever be gathered,
or are they lost forever?
My soul wakens with the feeling of pain
Perhaps easier to hide than to know my shame.
Am I a woman or a man, a child or a grown
My mind quakes with all that's so unknown.
"I love you"; His voice gently calls me,
"I contain the agony of your soul.
I was there, then, and now--
We will bear the truth together, somehow."
You are there, the One Who died.
And now You live, to draw the broken to your Side!
You know my ache, the depths of my despair.
You've never left me; You've always been there.
And now at last, my courage stirs again
I can ask, with all that's within
For a heart to know the wonder
of living, truly feeling, knowing others:
Being fully human--
Being fully woman.
Make me whole, Lord--heal my soul.
Cause me to know how You love me so!
Gather the pieces of my heart; bring them together inside,
Show me what it is to be alive--
A Feminine soul.
Sonia. July 19, 1992 ©
Thank you for visiting our home page! Assorted (very informal) teachings and articles are available, representative of some of the material covered at Safe Passage. See also the following article (originally published in the online magazine, Spirit Restoration): "The Conservative Church's Response to Homosexuality: A Quantum Leap of Honesty and Relationship" -- on how conservative Christians can respond to the issue of homosexuality in a way that embraces the glorious work of Christ in His Church.